DNF: The Everlasting by Alix E. Harrow
Jun. 3rd, 2026 10:24 pmAlix E. Harrow's The Everlasting is a novel about deconstructing a country's founding myth. Said myth is inspired by Arthuriana and, especially, Joan of Arc. I'm not against Joan of Arc motifs (hell, it's one of the things I love about Margaret Rogerson's Vespertine). I am also pro deconstructing founding myths! Including French founding myths, including Joan of Arc.
However.
However, I think if you're going to be deconstructing a country's myths it should be your own country. Whether its because the book is in English or the author is USAmerican or the fictional country is England-coded (the main narrator so far (25%) is called "Owen Mallory") or a combination but this feels particularly disrespectful. Leave Jeanne alone and go bother George Washington or something.
[books] Fight Right, Julie Schwarz Gottman & James Gottman
Jun. 3rd, 2026 09:25 pmI am going to lead, moderately emphatically, with: this is not a recommendation for this book (which in any case I haven't finished). The strapline is "how successful couples turn conflict into connection"; it was published in 2024. As
recessional has pointed out to me, some of what's going on is that their target audience is specifically people who are treating each other shittily but don't want to break up/divorce/etc, and do want to learn to do better, but don't have the tools for how.
I, however, am very much coming from a perspective of being much more inclined to push for, if not breakups, the idea that there exists unacceptable behaviour one gets to just nope out over, and also of the tradition of DBT workbooks where there is a heavy emphasis on explicitly acknowledging, out loud, with your words, that the shit you just did is not okay.
All of this having been said, there are two things about this book (so far) that I Must Share.
The first is about a tool the (Schwarz) Gottmans' research group uses. Their research group, for context, is called the Love Lab.
Much of the data and observations about couples in conflict in this book comes from our decades of work in the Love Lab and from other important and groundbreaking observational studies by ourselves and other researchers. But now we are getting even more sophisticated and granular information from the AI we trained with John's emotional coding system, called SPAFF, short for Specific Affect Coding System.
... the second, I say, moving swiftly on, is that a little further on in the book I have encountered a genuinely new-to-me evopsych argument: that because of evolutionary pressures it is men who get Extremely Emotional very quickly, and take a long time to calm back down and reach a point where they can engage rationally again!
... At this point: He's flooded. She's flooded. Both hearts are hammering hard; adrenaline is zinging through their veins. Stan's physiological response has ratcheted up and overwhelmed him even faster than Susan's, and he'll take a lot longer to come down from it.
Here's why: For evolutionary reasons having to do with protecting the tribe and hunting dangerous animals for food, our prehistoric male ancestors gained a survival advantage by being able to quickly mount and sustain an adrenaline-packed response to danger. Those with this rapid response were better able to fight off enemies and hunt for food, and because they were better survivors, their genes were more likely to get passed down and eventually inherited by our men today. That kind of enduring fight-or-flight response might have helped Stan's distant ancestors survive, but it isn't doing him any favors now.
tl;dr for all that I regularly kind of want to throw it across the room there are some amazing moments in this thing. I'm only about halfway through! WHO KNOWS what wonders await me!!!
Manga Check-in: "Touken Ranbu Anthology ~SquEni Formation~" ch. 6-11
Jun. 3rd, 2026 03:46 pm
Chapter 6: Okita vs Hihikata swords on whose master is better, Okita Souji or Hijikata Toshizou.
Kashuu gets mad at Yatonokami's moping about their master. "Unlike me, you were at his side until the end..."
Kanesada was just trying to distract them from their fight by starting up a new one lol
Chapter 7: Mikazuki is reading a book on dreams and pondering if swords can dream since they have human forms. If you put something under your pillow before bed you're supposed to dream of that object, so Yatonokami tries it.
Turns out Kashuu secretly tried it too before Yatonokami came, which is when he gave up because he wasn't alone anymore. 🥹
Chapter 8: One month since Kuniyuki was summoned. Hotarumaru and Kunitoshi attempt to make him food;;
Chapter 9: Kunihiro bros again. Yamabushi is missing so Yamanbagiri freaks out.

Somehow it turned into this. 😂 Yamabushi befriending a bear is so spot on lol
Chapter 10: This time more Rai fam.

Pfft so cute.
Chapter 11: Higeki has trouble remember Hizamaru's name and ends up calling him things like Higemaru (mustache) and Shirimaru (butt)... The whole hiza=knee thing is funny but it's really sad too, poot Hizamaru...
Reading: May 16-31
Jun. 3rd, 2026 08:54 pmSuch good news! A professor offered me a student job at uni for the next academic year!
Also, I've been doing a (variable) number of Sun Salutations (A and B) since the beginning of the year and friends, my bicepses and tricepses got so big that they're visible even through my arm fat when my arm is relaxed. (I can now finally do a few proper push-ups. Not too many1, but they're possible.)
The first book of this period was Bad Friend, which is about friendship breakups. It gets slightly repetitive in certain parts, but overall, I still got a lot of food for thought. Elman really pushed the idea that friendships aren't less important than romantic relationships.
Then I spent some time reading fiction books, starting with The Shadow Cabinet, which I liked even less than the previous book in the series (it's probably the characters, who are a bit likeable and a bit not), but not enough to cross out the final book off my list. Then there was Cinder House, which was great in most parts. It was a bit grotesque and it really worked for the story.
Finally, finally, I read La Belle Sauvage. I've been waiting to read it since it came out—there was book fair locally a month after this book came out and La Belle Sauvage was all over it. I held off because I knew it was going to be good and the wait for the sequel was going to be terrible. I was right. It was so good. I loved Malcolm, his curiosity and steadfastness. I can't wait to dig into The Secret Commonwealth. (I'm literally looking at it right now, on the shelf, and I'm only containing myself because I'm currently reading a Pulley novel.)
Then I read a really bad book in Croatian called Ljubav u Berlinu (transl. love in Berlin). Why do local critics have such a bad sense of what is actually good? This was published in 1995 and set before the fall of the Berlin Wall. It was written by a man, the narrator was male as well, and it was just so self-indulgent. There were no subverted tropes, although I kept hoping because the narration was actually good. I got another reason why I should avoid the literary genre.
As a palate cleanser, I picked up a murder mystery that has been on my list for a while, Friday the Rabbi Slept Late. The first chapter is excellent. While the mystery wasn't much—in fact, it felt almost like an afterthought in some parts—the novel itself had a lot things that I personally like, from community building to a small town type of character cast.
Another thing that I've been doing most days since the beginning of the year, aside from Sun Salutations, has been journal. Now that there's a practice in place, The Book of Alchemy came right on time. It's a collection of 100+ short essays followed by journaling prompts currated by Suleika Jaouad. Most of them have a food-for-thought potential, although I just straight up read it rather than journal with it as it was intended.
- Michelle Elman, Bad Friend: Why Friendship Breakups Hurt and How to Heal
- Juno Dawson, The Shadow Cabinet (Her Majesty's Royal Coven 2)
- Freya Marske, Cinder House
- Philip Pullman, La Belle Sauvage (The Book of Dust 1)
- Željko Ivanković, Ljubav u Berlinu
- Harry Kamelman, Friday the Rabbi Slept Late (The Rabbi Small Mysteries 1)
- Suleika Jaouad, The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life
1 "Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants." (Michael Pollan)... is what I thought about when I wrote that.
Cyberspace Theory
Jun. 3rd, 2026 03:26 pmThe year is 2008. You don't know it yet, but the internet will never again be as accessible, searchable, interoperable, or durable as it is right now. Profit motive, the tragedy of the commons, and malicious self interest are beginning to conspire to erode all of the best parts of the online world, and it will only get worse from here. Here are some of the highlights of your regular online experience that the people being born today won't even realize were taken from them:
Aaaaand now I'm homesick again.
Daily Check-In: Day 3
Jun. 3rd, 2026 04:26 pmHow's the fanfic coming along?
- Great!
- Good
- Okay
- Could be better/could be worse
- Not so great
History
Jun. 3rd, 2026 02:58 pmThe Internet was dominated by kind of counter-cultural people
Then the mundanes showed up, and it began to suck -- much like what happened to fandom.
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Jun. 3rd, 2026 08:33 pmMonday I headed to town to use the Morrisons vouchers. They had Grogu plates so I got one and they also had a Star Wars Funko mystery box,.. which turned out to be two different Ahsoka’s. B and M didn’t have the lollipops I was looking for but they did have the Stranger Things carrier bag that I’ve been looking for this November! Yipee!
It did make me tired though so I didn’t do much when I got back home. Though ugh my mood plummeted over the night for no reason (and of course when I put something on to distract me, an ep of [redacted] it was depressing too which didn’t help).
Tuesday was a library stint so I caught up on the last two Fantastic Four comic, read a chapter of Heated Rivalry and read some of the Eighth Doctor special magazine.
(Speaking of I watched one of the special features from the movie disc, the making of and ugh… it was so odd. It was less directly about the movie more the journey and attempts to get there and didn’t have a single actor in it which just felt so odd.)
There was also a reveal of new Lego Pokémon sets and there’s 12 of them. They are a bit blocky, (I mean look at gengar he’s essentially a cube!) but I like them, especially that there’s a Bulbasaur! (And thankfully in a cheaper set.) though it is odd how the squirtle and mew have odd things with them (car and drone respectively). They’re also smart play and apparently sound just as iffy as the Star Wars ones which is a shame. But! At least this time they’ve done a better job covering where the brick goes, so there’s no unsightly gaps.
Yesterday my glasses also broke. The arm came away suddenly which was annoying but at least useable. (Albeit with a hat to keep it in place.) This morning I went to the opticians (after the rain) and was told it’d be £25 cause it would be new frames. I’d not bought my wallet so had to come back… and when I did the lady up just did it for free. So that was good cause that would’ve been an annoyance.
Now I’m gonna finish A Taste Of Murder and then some more of the movie special features and then finishing Amazing Digital Circus so I’m ready for tomorrow.
Plus I wanna transfer screenshots from the switch 2 cause it’s full again. I don’t get why it won’t let you expand the memory associated with screencaps to take more (even more oddly the memory card has the same screenshot space as the switch 2 itself, on the switch it had way more which ??)
Tomorrow is a town trip, to pick up Sleep Token tees from Primark and see Masters Of The Universe and the Amazing Digital Circus thing… unless the storm comes back.
I leave with two pics, the Lego tuxedo cat (I’ve not got a pic with Midna yet) and a lil guy we saw last week on a walk.
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Wednesday Reading Meme
Jun. 3rd, 2026 03:50 pmJenny Teichmann, Pegasos: An Easy Ancient Greek Reader: A very short original novella in Ancient Greek, retelling the story of Bellerophon and Pegasus, with a facing glossary including basically every word on the page. It's fun! I liked it! Yay, horsies!
What I'm Reading Now
Comics Wednesday!
( Doctor Strange #7, Fantastic Four #12, Iron Man #6 )
What I'm Reading Next
Who knows? I mean, I'm awake right now; I feel like this is a victory.
The Good Luck Girls, by Charlotte Nicole Davis
Jun. 3rd, 2026 12:07 pm
In a country with Wild West vibes, young girls are often sold to brothels, to become sex slaves when they come of age. They are given magical tattoos of buds when they're bought. These tattoos slowly grow and blossom into flowers that the girls are nicknamed for. They cause excruciating pain when they're covered up, preventing the girls from fleeing and blending into the populace. But this isn't the only barrier to escape. The entire wilderness area is haunted by angry ghosts that can take physical form and rip you to shreds.
On Clementine's inaugural rape night, her would-be rapist nearly suffocates her, and she brains him with a lamp. As she would be executed for that, she, her older sister Aster who's been a sex slave for years already, and three other girls manage to escape the brothel and flee in search of a rumored woman who can remove the magic tattoos.
By far the most interesting character in the book is Violet, the brothel bully, spoiled brat, and magical opium addict who is the only one who knows where to find the woman who will be their salvation, if she actually exists. As they flee across the haunted wilderness, they're pursued by magical slavecatchers, are joined by a boy, and meet some rebels. Clementine has a romance with the boy, two of the girls have a romance together, and Violet and Aster have intense feelings which hopefully go somewhere in the sequel.
This novel has an extremely cool setting and unusual worldbuilding. I love ensemble casts and wilderness traveling. I expected to adore this, but while I did enjoy reading it, I didn't love it. I had been under the impression that the girls all had different magical powers, which is my own fault for misreading the blurb, but I was disappointed that they don't have any, except that Clementine can talk to ghosts a bit. More importantly, only Aster and Violet, plus Clementine to some degree, get any real characterization. I was interested in them enough that I'll read the sequel, but the book overall felt like it should have been fantastic but ended up merely good.
Content notes: There is a very violent, graphic rape attempt in chapter one. That's it for that but the repercussions of years of sexual abuse are felt throughout the novel.
Our Monday morning dental appointments were scheduled to start at 9 AM. At about 7:57, we got a call canceling them because the hygienist was out sick; someone from the front desk made the successful effort to call us before the office opened in hopes of catching us before we made the drive, which we appreciated. (Shame about the four-hour carshare booking we still had to pay for. Ah, well.) So that's unfortunate, but I'm glad the hygienist did call out rather than sharing air with patients. I've rebooked us for next month, and here's hoping local covid levels will still be low then.
Suddenly we're having weather that actually feels like early summer, at least during the day. Still not entirely confident that there won't be frosts at all, but nonetheless, Friday we're hoping to venture out and buy tomato seedlings and more soil to plant them in. We still have a heap of fabric plant pots of a few sizes (which we need to shake out and inspect in case something has somehow gone horribly wrong with them during their several years of disuse, and replace if need be, but here's hoping not) and several tomato ladders to put to use.
(That "hoping to venture out" uncertainty is primarily because we're both taking the day off, but gambling and not booking a carshare in advance so that we don't have to commit to a departure time or try to guess how long we'll be out. Hopefully on a weekday we'll be able to get a flex car--that is, a first-come-first-served car that you can just park anywhere in ~the zone~ [which doesn't include our place, but comes fairly close, so there are quite often cars parked right along its border] when you're done with it, leaving it up for grabs--without too much trouble.)
A random garden-adjacent thing that keeps annoying me even though there's nothing to be done about it: given last year's drought situation, I keep having the thought of buying some sort of rain barrel. But the roof of the townhouse row is flat and all of the rainwater channels down into the drains through the building, so there's no spout or anything where the water can actually be caught. Alas. So I wish the notion would stop popping into my head as if it's something we've never considered.
Cyberspace Theory
Jun. 3rd, 2026 01:42 pmThere’s something that happens when you ask a question on the internet and get a clean, confident answer back in seconds.
It feels like progress. You got what you needed without wading through a dozen blog posts, forum threads, and personal testimonials of varying quality.
A new study from University of California, Riverside (UCR) suggests that what gets filtered out in that exchange is more significant than it might seem.
Moreover, as AI systems take over more of how we find information online, the web may be quietly losing something it took 25 years to accumulate.
Using AI to find a list of links to human-made resources is fine. Using AI to generate "answers" is no better than using a Ouija board to ask random spirits for advice. AI answers can't cite their sources so they are useless.
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Birdfeeding
Jun. 3rd, 2026 01:37 pmI fed the birds. I've seen a few sparrows and house finches. Red-winged blackbirds are singing overhead.
I put out water for the birds.
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Conservation
Jun. 3rd, 2026 01:11 pmA huge area of the Everglades that was drained in an attempt to convert it to suburbia has been restored to a somewhat native ecosystem after 2 decades of reverse-landscape engineering.
Picayune Strand is a big, almost perfect rectangle of south Florida wetland located northwest of Everglades National Park, northeast of Thousand Islands Nat. Wildlife Refuge, and west of Florida Panther Nat. Wildlife Refuge.
Drabbles mois des fiertés, partie 1
Jun. 3rd, 2026 07:58 pmNew Mutants, Kitty/Illyana, PG, angst
Au mauvais moment sur AO3
2 juin : Ils ont l’air hétéro, mais en fait…
Fruits Basket, Hatsuharu/Rin, PG
Important sur AO3
3 juin : Premier nid d’un couple LGBT
Hikaru no Go, Hikaru/Akira, PG
Colocation sur AO3